Some people consider paying for care as an option that is not very ethical. There is an argument based on paying back what your parents have done for you and not leaving them alone. This of course, referring to the cases of retirement homes.
In today’s world, the schedules are tight and mother and father have to work full time to sustain the house and family. Grandfathers get old and ill. There comes a time when they stop being useful to take care of their grandchildren and other task. They become like children who require care. Having them in your house might not be what they need but sometimes is what they want. Being near to their children is all they want , no matter what illness they have. Hiring a nurse to look after them can be an expensive service to pay for. It may result cheaper or affordable to let them go to a home where specialized people will look after them. In countries like Spain, it is very common for parents to stay in their own home while their sons and daughter hire immigrants to look after them. Immigrants, mostly illegal, are very cheap labor. Some of them already have some medical studies for being nurse assistants but mostly they just learn along the way and keep their patient company. It is almost the same case in the States but public care homes are also very popular and affordable. The cultural idiosyncrasy is also different and it is no such a big deal for someone to take their parents to a home.
Paying for care might be affordable for you and that’s ok. But remember you are not paying for someone to replace you as a son of a daughter. Our parents still want to feel loved and sometimes needed. They want to be visited and feel your company. Having the patient diagnosed it is very important. Some mental illnesses require certain exercises in order to postpone the advancement of the medical condition. Hiring someone with no knowledge at all on how to do this might end making your parents condition increment until it will reach a point where it will need 24 hours 7 days a week care.
Paying for care in houses sometimes is a good option. There they are being taken care at all times, they will make friends and have lots of activities programmed for them to do. They will feel accompanied at all time. This is not cheap at all but it is worth it most of the time, especially if you live an extremely busy life and your parent has a considerable medical condition.